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Q: Who are Queer ADHD’s programs designed for?
A: We assume the following about our members:
You have ADHD and identify as queer or LGBTQIA+
Only you can determine your identities. We do not require an ADHD diagnosis, and we do not gatekeep who is “queer enough.” We also welcome folks who are newly exploring whether these labels feel right for them.
You are ready to experiment with making changes in your life
You will get the most benefit from these sessions if you use them to find insights and ideas, and then test those ideas in between sessions. Please consider your interest, ability, and willingness to take on this effort.
You learn and process effectively through listening and speaking
Auditory learners and verbal processors, this is your medium! If you have trouble focusing during Zoom calls, consider whether taking colorful notes or using fidget toys during sessions might help you maintain your focus. (You can also use these calls to try out different ways of focusing, which might help you with work or school!)
You’re looking for insights, ideas, and inspiration
We often don’t know what we don’t know. Learning more about ADHD can help us see the world through an entirely new lens. Hearing another person’s story can generate our most unexpected “Aha!” moments. Sharing our own stories can help us recognize how much wisdom we already have.
You are committed to a personal journey of inclusivity, while also accepting that others’ journeys may look different
As group members, we strive to avoid using language that promotes shame or exclusion of marginalized groups, including of ourselves. We also respect that this is a challenging task, so we each focus on our own practice while learning from the examples of others.
Q: Who are Queer ADHD’s programs not designed for?
A: We are not currently resourced to support the following types of members:
Folks with other mental health challenges who have not yet found individual support
If you are also dealing with unsupported depression, anxiety, PTSD, or other mental health issues that interfere your ability to focus, we ask that you build a one-on-one relationship with a therapist (or commit to another healing modality) before you begin a program with Queer ADHD. Our program can supplement your work with a therapist, but it will not be sufficient on its own. There are LGBTQIA+ therapist directories at Therapy for QPoC, Inclusive Therapists, Gaylesta, and Psychology Today.
Loved ones of ADHD folks who do not have ADHD themselves
If you are looking for guidance so that you can best support a loved one with ADHD, this isn’t the group for you. Please check out the virtual support groups offered by ADDA for other options, and thank you for your care and commitment to the ADHD person in your life.
Allies who do not identify as queer or LGBTQIA+
While we define queerness very broadly and welcome anyone who self-identifies in this way, please do not occupy space in these sessions if this is not you. Thank you for being an ally and for supporting us in this way.
Children and teens who are under 18
We’re sorry, but we’re not able to accept people under the age of 18 at this time.
People who prefer to say “All Lives Matter” in response to Black Lives Matter
If this describes you, please invest more time in learning about unconscious bias and institutional oppression before considering our offerings. Queer culture is a social justice culture.
Q: What’s the difference between Queer ADHD’s Group Coaching and Community Sessions?
A: With Group Coaching, you have a dedicated seat in a group of 4–6 people that meets every week with a coach over Zoom. You commit to attending this group regularly for as long as you wish to be a member of it. This commitment and group size will allow you to move in the direction of your goals with personal attention and support. A professional ADHD coach and your fellow group members will be with you every step of the way, getting to know you and cheering you on.
With Community Sessions, you’ll join larger gatherings over Zoom to learn and grow in a community atmosphere. (Trust us, it is seriously affirming and exciting to see a whole bunch of beautiful queer ADHD folks all in one place!) Although we’re experimenting with different formats, these sessions will typically include an educational topic and a guided discussion, encouraging community members to share their experiences. Although there might not be time for every member to speak, everyone can contribute using the Zoom chat. There is no commitment—you can join a Community Session whenever your schedule allows.
The Group Coaching Membership includes access to both of these programs; however, non-members can also register for Community Sessions any time.
Q: What’s the difference between Coaching and Therapy?
A: Therapy differs from coaching by centering your healing. Therapy is highly effective for healing old wounds, processing trauma, and making sense of our past to relieve the pain it is causing us in our lives. If painful events from your past are impacting your life, we recommend you make progress in therapy or other healing methods before investing in coaching.
Coaching is an equal partnership that helps you clarify and move toward the improvements you want to see in your life. We’ll focus on your strengths and capabilities, help you identify changes you’d like to experiment with, and encourage you to assess what truly works best for you. Since Queer ADHD coaches are not trained as therapists, our coaching conversations will focus on your present and your future, rather than your past.
ADHD Coaching combines the principles of life coaching with expertise in how the ADHD mind operates. We have no interest in helping you act “more neurotypical” — we want you to feel supported and confident as your authentic self.
Group Coaching Membership
Q: Is there a deadline to register for the Group Coaching Membership?
A: No, this is available on a rolling basis, and new members are placed in groups as seats and time slots become available.
Q: What are my responsibilities as a member of a coaching group?
A: Your group will rely on you to show up to your scheduled sessions, be intentional about the improvements you want to see in your life, and encourage your fellow members. Please review and adhere to our Community Guidelines, which expand on the following basic principles:
- We take confidentiality very seriously.
- We don’t give each other advice.
- We connect with each other respectfully.
Q: Who are the coaches?
A: Groups will either be coached by Sarah Dopp, who founded Queer ADHD, or Lou Rogers, who brings a transgender perspective. Both are professional ADHD coaches trained by ADDCA. We will be adding more coaches as we expand our programs.
Q: What if I can’t afford the membership fee?
A: As with our other group-based programs, we’re offering a limited number of seats at self-defined rates to those who find this price inaccessible, no questions asked. Please contact email@example.com with a price you can afford (this is good practice for setting your boundaries!), and we’ll let you know if we can accommodate you.
Q: Is there a way I can help others with price accessibility?
A: Yes! Any amount you wish to pay above the membership price will directly support access for others. Please contact firstname.lastname@example.org with the amount you’d like to pay above membership price. Thank you so much for supporting your community.
Q: What happens if I need to miss a session?
A: You can skip sessions at your own discretion; however, please be thoughtful about the impact this has on the group, and do your best to keep your group and coach informed. We are not able to offer refunds for missed sessions—even ones planned in advance—because your seat in the group is reserved solely for you.
Q: What happens if my coach needs to miss or cancel a session?
A: If your coach is unavailable (e.g., vacation or sickness), we will do our best to bring in an alternate coach so your group can continue to meet. If we are unable to do this, we will cancel the session and refund or credit each member USD $50 per session cancelled (or a prorated amount for those on other payment plans). We will also do this if the Queer ADHD office has a planned closure.
Q: What happens if I need to cancel my membership?
A: You are welcome to cancel your membership at any time, and we will refund you a prorated amount for the unused sessions remaining in your month. You can also rejoin at any time; however, we can’t guarantee that you will be placed in the same group you had before. To cancel, email email@example.com.
Q: Can I switch to a different group after we begin?
A: Yes, especially if your time slot stops working well for your schedule. You can talk to us about being placed in a different group any time, and we’ll let you know what’s available.
Q: What if I need ADHD coaching and I’m not excited about being in a group?
A: If being part of a group sounds more like a compromise than an opportunity, we recommend you work with a one-on-one ADHD coach or ADHD-informed therapist so your issues can be fully centered and supported. You can reach out to Sarah Dopp or Lou Rogers to discuss their current rates and availability. There are also ADHD coach directories at The ADD Coach Academy (ADDCA), ADDitude Magazine, and The ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO).
Q: Can I register at the last minute?
A: Pretty much! Registration for a Community Session closes 15 minutes before it begins.
Q: Can I cancel at the last minute?
A: You can cancel or reschedule your seat in a Community Session up to 30 minutes before it begins. After that, you are responsible for the full fee.
Q: How do I get free access to Community Sessions as a Group Coaching Member?
A: Once we receive your membership deposit, we’ll send you an email (within a few days) with your unique coupon code for Community Sessions. Use this code in the Redeem Coupon field every time you register for Community Sessions. Your unique code is just for you, so please don’t share it.
If you’ve registered for a membership but haven’t yet been asked for a deposit, please continue to register for Community Sessions as you normally would. We’ll credit or refund you for any future paid Community Sessions once we get you into a membership billing cycle.
Q: Wasn’t this called Group Sessions before?
A: From May – Aug 2021, we ran a weekly program called Group Sessions. These sessions were shorter (60 minutes) and were limited to 15 attendees. While we loved this program, we also found that the group sizes and session lengths weren’t quite right for our goals. So we expanded it into Community Sessions to celebrate our community experience, and added Group Coaching to provide ongoing personal attention. We hope you find what you need in one or both of these offerings!
Q: Who should I contact if I have an issue?
A: Reach out to us using our contact form or just email firstname.lastname@example.org. We’re here to help!